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Children at a Destination Wedding

Jossy, yesterday at 2:24 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4
My fiancé and I just got engaged this July and we’ve decide we 100% want to do a destination wedding in the Caribbean since my family is from the Dominican Republic and I want my family there to be able to attend. One of our concerns/questions is whether or not we should allow our family to bring their children. There’s a lot we’ve tried to take into consideration, one being that many of my family have children and it would be hard for them to attend without them. We’ve created a rough draft of our guest list and my family alone would be 180 including their children. If I didn’t include their children it would be roughly around 120-140. I feel like it’s a pretty huge difference but I just want to know what others think regarding this topic. I know that at the end of the day, it’s our decision but I’m really curious.


Latest activity by Jacks, yesterday at 3:59 PM
  • Janet
    Devoted October 2018
    Janet ·
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    At the end of the day, you have two things working against you with your guest list, destination wedding and childfree wedding. Both of these are large factors when rsvps come in. That's not a bad thing, and some destination wedding will even surprise you with acceptance rates. You just have to be understanding of this

    Cost of destination weddings for guests with kids can sky rocket. That's extra flight tickets, food, etc. So even if you do invite families some parents may opt for the kids to stay behind IF they have/can afford childcare. Others do not want to be more than a quick drive away in case something happens and will decline all together.

    If you decide to go with no kids, be consistent and understanding of parents decisions to not attend. Some do not have childcare available, a lot of parents will not vet a sitter for one weekend on top of paying hundreds of dollars for childcare, and some cannot afford to bring a sitter with them to their hotel to watch the kids. If parents push back at you, hold to your decision and just say we understand and you will be missed.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar August 2021
    Michelle ·
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    How will your family in the DR react to their children not being invited? Not that others should be the sole deciding factor, but if you are going there for a family affair, this may look contrary to your intention.

    I think even with 2 years notice, this may not be feasible for families. If it's not a cost issue, they may have other ideas about how they want to vacation. I think you should be prepared that some guests may not attend as any destination wedding, even if whole families are invited. Good luck.

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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    So as a mother of one and another on the way, I can't imagine traveling to another country and leaving my children behind especially if it's for a family event because then I'm not sure who would even watch our children. So unless your family members have someone outside of the family that would be able to watch the children for several days then they might have to decline due to lack of child care. They also just might not be comfortable leaving their child/ren for several days to travel to a foreign country. This is obviously completely up to you, but if you don't include children then I would expect a higher decline rate. I will say destination weddings already have a higher than normal decline rate so excluding children on top of being a destination wedding would definitely work against you.
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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    I came in to say what Veronica said. As a mom, there would be very little chance I'd leave my child even for an evening in a foreign country. If you decide not to invite kids to the event please make that clear at the beginning so your guests can plan accordingly.

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